On my mind

The blog includes articles I have written over the last few years, as well as a weekly post where I share what’s on my mind, even if it’s an undeveloped idea that popped up when I was stirring a vat of cheese!

Remembering The “Orgasm Doctor”: Women’s Month Tribute to Betty Dodson

Many children of neglect, in their dark, lonely, scared hyperarousal, discover masturbation as a source of comfort, regulation or simply a way to get to sleep. Many are quite young and make

A Basket in the Bulrushes: “Real Mothers” Affiliation and Reproductive Justice

I recently heard a story where a self-identified Aboriginal woman in Australia learned that she was adopted when she was a teenager. “I always wondered why my mom was so mean to

Half the Sky: Miscarriage, Abortion and Reflections on Motherhood

As we mark the second anniversary of the seemingly endless global pandemic, let’s not allow it to eclipse International Women’s Day on March 8th, which doggedly rolls around year after year in

Who Gives a S _ _ _? Incontinence, Constipation and Regulation

When the pandemic began, there was a crazy run on toilet paper. Oy vey! An African client told me about exclaiming to his mother, “I don’t get it about this toilet paper

“Presente!” Breath, Folding Chairs and Playing Your Best

On February 5th, 2022, Trayvon Martin would have been 27 years old. February 26th marks the 10th anniversary of his tragic and senseless murder in Sanford, Florida. It is hard to believe

Happy V Day: Heartbreak, Mothers and Vulvas

When I was a waiter in a fairly high-end place, it was the only time I ever found any use for Valentine’s Day. Usually, there was an overpriced special menu, lots of

Bread and Worms: Survivor Guilt, Moral Injury and Intergenerational Transmission of Trauma

Instantly a tight pit seized up deep in my stomach, hearing the heavily accented 92-year-old voice on the radio. I did not realize it was International Holocaust Remembrance Day, the anniversary of

Lost and Found – Trauma, Poverty and Chile’s First Dog

“Are more famous people dying these days, or am I just more aware of it?” I asked my husband the other day. I had just heard the news of the passing of

Stalled but Not “Stuck” – Slogging, Baking and Care

Certain words I have torn out of my personal lexicon and just tossed. One of those is “stuck.” It is not allowed in my office either. True, sometimes progress is so slow

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