On my mind

The blog includes articles I have written over the last few years, as well as a weekly post where I share what’s on my mind, even if it’s an undeveloped idea that popped up when I was stirring a vat of cheese!

Bye Bye Charlie

Rolling Stones Drummer Charlie Watts Passes at 80 On August 25, as I tuned in for my carefully regulated quotient of National Public Radio morning news, and caught the tail end of

Existence – Triggering, Pronouns and Learning from Experience

I worked at the San Francisco VA for one year to the day. It was March, 1989-1990. I remember it well because it was the year of the historic San Francisco earthquake.

You Are My Kind

Neglect, Being Wanted, A Place to Belong Some years ago, I was asked to be a main presenter at a weekend Institute of the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists

Changing Spots

Mistakes, Butterflies and Potholes I have a special affection for leopards. As I love to say, “you know the old adage ‘A leopard can’t change its spots?’ Well, I can. And I

Practicing What I “Preach” – Voice, Spine and Announcing My New Book

My first book, published in 2010, was a sorry child of neglect. At that time, I lacked the knowledge, the wisdom, and most of all the confidence to do any promotion at

Labor and Delivery

Feedback, Sound, and Anticipation Although I am not a mom, I somehow have an image of a small overnight bag, standing by the door. I don’t know if it is an actual

The Journey of 1,000 Miles: Hallucinogen-Assisted Psychotherapy for Trauma

In 2006 I made my personal discovery of local treasure Michael Pollan, courtesy of Terry Gross, the voice and brains behind National Public Radio’s iconic program “Fresh Air.” The dean of UC

Trauma and Addiction: Reflections On My 38 Years

On June 15, 2021 I marked my 38th year of recovery from alcoholism. As is often the case I am stunned by the passing of the years, and also shocked to be

The Shape of Shame: Trauma, Posture and Coming to Tall

Way back when I was first training to work with couples, I studied with the renowned relationship expert and researcher, John Gottman. By now Gottman is about as familiar to the mainstream

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