Sexuality

Sexuality is a complex, wide and potentially wonderful world. Our culture gives us wildly confusing messages about it. On one hand we are stimulated and teased by it virtually everywhere we look. On the other, there is a poverty of real information about it. Most doctors, educators, parents, even therapists rarely speak of it in a meaningful way. Even couples themselves don’t talk about it, out of fear, shame, or the simple belief that they are “supposed to know” much more than they do. So where do young people “learn” about sex? Nowadays, largely from porn and Hollywood, which are hardly realistic portrayals.

Sexuality encompasses so many parts of us: body, emotion, relationship, operating together or not. It can be a wondrous source of pleasure and joy; and/or devastating, and very confusing. It is my wish to contribute to better understanding about it, so we can manage and enjoy our own better!

Why Be Kink Aware? Squicked, Refugees, Minority Stress

When I began my sex therapy training in 2000, I thought of myself as reasonably sex positive. I remember hearing a celebrated and renowned sex therapist/researcher say at a conference, that people

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Local Color: Sexual Freedom, GSRD, Sexual Abuse

I have lived in the San Francisco Bay Area, USA, for all my adult life, which by now totals many decades. I have always thought, proudly, of my home base as progressive

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Colors of Pride: History Shame, Respair

Last week we went to see the museum exhibit of Monet in Venice. It was beautiful, all the soft muted colors of water lilies and more. I do love the gentle pastel

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