On my mind

The blog includes articles I have written over the last few years, as well as a weekly post where I share what’s on my mind, even if it’s an undeveloped idea that popped up when I was stirring a vat of cheese!

Golden: Says Who? Gray Hair, Cheese

Recently I read a brief story about California Senator Dianne Feinstein, a recent target of loud complaints about “cognitive decline” due to her advanced age of 88. Feinstein equally loudly and vehemently

What’s In Your Head? Tabu Busting, Myth Busting, Feeling Alive

I remember once hearing someone say at a sex therapy conference, “Everyone, absolutely everyone you see walking down the street, has a sex life.” At first, a trite, mundane, rather obvious remark

Inconsolable: Heartbreak, A Puppy, Attachment Trauma Revisited

A ten-year love relationship spanned roughly the decade of my 20s. Out of ten years, I spent about four of them trying to leave this man, a dizzying switch back and forth

High Culture: Twin Towers, Long Steep Climbs, Regulation

Sometimes a story or a movie is truly worth well over a thousand words to express and convey an often wordless experience concisely. This week I decided to do something a little

Updating My Files: “New” Paradigms, Damage Control, It’s All About Regulation

As an inveterate bookworm and student, I am reading all the time, and there is never enough of it—Oy vey. But what a wonderful problem to have when compared with the years

What Do I Owe You? Value, Generosity, Deals

As a very young child, as far back as I can remember, I felt, and I believed, that somehow I had no right to exist. I don’t know if it was because

Remembering The “Orgasm Doctor”: Women’s Month Tribute to Betty Dodson

Many children of neglect, in their dark, lonely, scared hyperarousal, discover masturbation as a source of comfort, regulation or simply a way to get to sleep. Many are quite young and make

A Basket in the Bulrushes: “Real Mothers” Affiliation and Reproductive Justice

I recently heard a story where a self-identified Aboriginal woman in Australia learned that she was adopted when she was a teenager. “I always wondered why my mom was so mean to

Half the Sky: Miscarriage, Abortion and Reflections on Motherhood

As we mark the second anniversary of the seemingly endless global pandemic, let’s not allow it to eclipse International Women’s Day on March 8th, which doggedly rolls around year after year in

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