On my mind

The blog includes articles I have written over the last few years, as well as a weekly post where I share what’s on my mind, even if it’s an undeveloped idea that popped up when I was stirring a vat of cheese!

Winds and Change: Sound, Tempest, Hope

Growing up I wondered if everyone has a constant musical backbeat playing in their heads like I do, a DJ who never takes a day off, always keeping me company. I rather

Losing and Winning: Trauma, Flight, Mysteries

I rarely work with eating disorders, if I can help it. My own history was so painful, shame-ridden and protracted, that I fear I will not have the patience or sufficient compassion

Zero to 70: Oxford, Time, Justice

When I asked one of my esteemed colleagues at the Transform Trauma Oxford 2025 Conference if he would be in the Bay Area (where I live) any time soon, he said he

Stalled but Not “Stuck” – Slogging, Baking and Care

Certain words I have torn out of my personal lexicon and just tossed. One of those is “stuck.” It is not allowed in my office either. True, sometimes progress is so slow

Voice and Spine: Trees, Feet, Upward

Way back when I was in graduate school, which seems like eons ago (it was the middle 1980’s), I studied the work of an attachment researcher named Stephen Johnson. That is Stephen

To Be Or…Invisible, Parts, Integration

When I was in ninth grade, my English class planned a field trip to the theater to see Henrik Ibsen’s A Doll’s House. Strange how all this detail has endured in memory.

The Big Not So Easy: Loss, Body, Living Well

I remember the first time I went to New Orleans. It was probably 2000 or thereabouts, for a sex therapy conference. What a perfect venue for a crowd of sex therapists

Zipless: Narcissism, Dementia, Loss

Like most of us who were young women in the early 1970’s, I was swept up in the fervor, passion and perhaps euphoria of the Women’s Movement and the “Free Love Generation,”

Born Scared: Brain Development, Essential Threat, Connection

Often, I feel like a large block of cheddar. The day of mixing and stirring, heating and cooling, seems to be the big day in which it is made. But the real

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