On my mind

The blog includes articles I have written over the last few years, as well as a weekly post where I share what’s on my mind, even if it’s an undeveloped idea that popped up when I was stirring a vat of cheese!

Pride and Joy: Glowing Panes, Mothers’ Day, A Sports Bra

Since the Pandemic hit in March of 2020, I have filled my Prius with gas a total of six times so far – the first time after about 15 months. I had

A Starless Sky Disconnection, Boredom, Creative Awakening

It was possibly 25 years ago now, at one of the few and far-between trauma conferences. I always had to travel far to get to them in those days and usually felt

Golden: Says Who? Gray Hair, Cheese

Recently I read a brief story about California Senator Dianne Feinstein, a recent target of loud complaints about “cognitive decline” due to her advanced age of 88. Feinstein equally loudly and vehemently

What’s In Your Head? Tabu Busting, Myth Busting, Feeling Alive

I remember once hearing someone say at a sex therapy conference, “Everyone, absolutely everyone you see walking down the street, has a sex life.” At first, a trite, mundane, rather obvious remark

Inconsolable: Heartbreak, A Puppy, Attachment Trauma Revisited

A ten-year love relationship spanned roughly the decade of my 20s. Out of ten years, I spent about four of them trying to leave this man, a dizzying switch back and forth

High Culture: Twin Towers, Long Steep Climbs, Regulation

Sometimes a story or a movie is truly worth well over a thousand words to express and convey an often wordless experience concisely. This week I decided to do something a little

Updating My Files: “New” Paradigms, Damage Control, It’s All About Regulation

As an inveterate bookworm and student, I am reading all the time, and there is never enough of it—Oy vey. But what a wonderful problem to have when compared with the years

What Do I Owe You? Value, Generosity, Deals

As a very young child, as far back as I can remember, I felt, and I believed, that somehow I had no right to exist. I don’t know if it was because

Remembering The “Orgasm Doctor”: Women’s Month Tribute to Betty Dodson

Many children of neglect, in their dark, lonely, scared hyperarousal, discover masturbation as a source of comfort, regulation or simply a way to get to sleep. Many are quite young and make

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