Trauma and Neglect

The blog includes articles I have written over the last few years, as well as a weekly post where I share what’s on my mind, even if it’s an undeveloped idea that popped up when I was stirring a vat of cheese!

Silence

“Why Won’t You ‘Just’ Talk to Me?” As I was pondering the recurring devastating dynamic between a couple I work with, a memory from my own life bubbled up. For those of

Nevermind

Ignoring, Forgetting and Denying Driving to work one day last month, I heard a snippet of news about a young man named Spencer Elden, now 30 years old, suing Nirvana and Kurt

Second Chances

Healing, Relationship Repair and Jewels In 1968 I almost died of anorexia. I was 13. We now know that the whole spectrum of eating disorders are desperate attempts at self-regulation, and rife

Isn’t Transference Grand?

Idealization, Idolatry and the Quest for Authentic Attachment Early in my career, when I was in a post-graduate training program and just beginning to see clients, I remember when one of my

Labor and Delivery

Feedback, Sound, and Anticipation Although I am not a mom, I somehow have an image of a small overnight bag, standing by the door. I don’t know if it is an actual

The Journey of 1,000 Miles: Hallucinogen-Assisted Psychotherapy for Trauma

In 2006 I made my personal discovery of local treasure Michael Pollan, courtesy of Terry Gross, the voice and brains behind National Public Radio’s iconic program “Fresh Air.” The dean of UC

Trauma and Addiction: Reflections On My 38 Years

On June 15, 2021 I marked my 38th year of recovery from alcoholism. As is often the case I am stunned by the passing of the years, and also shocked to be

A Refugee Olympic Team

Regulation and Affiliation for the “Diaspora” For some reason I have long had a fascination with athlete biographies, autobiographies and memoirs. Willie Mays, Arthur Ashe, Andre Agasse, even tennis star Alice Marble,

Too Much of Nothing: Spotlight on Neglect

“Now, too much of nothing can make a man feel ill at ease One man’s temper might rise while another man’s temper might freeze In the day of confession, we cannot mock

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