Trauma and Neglect

The blog includes articles I have written over the last few years, as well as a weekly post where I share what’s on my mind, even if it’s an undeveloped idea that popped up when I was stirring a vat of cheese!

Labyrinth: Longing, Loss, Leopards

We went to adopt our two little dogs, Button and Angel, in 2009. I had recently begun writing my first book, so I warned my husband that I would not be much

To Be or Not to Be: Love? Presence, Attachment

Occasionally, I read a book because it has been hanging out on the NY Times Bestseller List for so long that I feel I need to know what “everyone” is reading to

Half the Sky: Valor, Grief, Transformation

Back when I was in college, I remember the Maoists used to say, “Women hold up half the sky.” Although I was never a Maoist, I always loved this image of women,

Solar Eclipse: Existence, Fame, Ambivalence

What I remember best about John F. Kennedy’s assassination is the looping image of the president’s little son, “John-John,” saluting. In 1963, I was eight, and we lived in South Bend, Indiana,

Not Me: Repurposing, Rejecting, Renaming

When I was in kindergarten and first grade in New York City, teachers had not yet made the rule that we had to give Valentine’s cards to everyone in the class. We

Apartheid Redux: Re-enactment, Fragmentation, Integration

WARNING: This blog includes graphic content that may be disturbing to some readers. I suppose by now it is naive to be shocked by yet another traffic-stop murder of a young Black

Outside the Lines: Time, Art, Hope

Although I am committed to zero tolerance, no rushing, I am rarely successful. I am always trying to do too much in a day; the time gets away from me. I wind

Glorious? “Dickkopf,” Com Panis, Meanings

We saw so few movies when we were growing up that the ones we did see stick in my mind, like the 1968 film, “Oliver!” a musical adapted to screen, based on

Sex Positive: Climate Change, “Drudgery and Begrudgery,” Magnificence

Anyone who has known me more than a minute has heard me, probably ad nauseum, reference the renowned relationship researcher John Gottman. Gottman, originally an MIT-trained mathematician, changed direction to a study

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