Sexuality

The blog includes articles I have written over the last few years, as well as a weekly post where I share what’s on my mind, even if it’s an undeveloped idea that popped up when I was stirring a vat of cheese!

Pandemic – An Upstream Look At #MeToo

“Two country people were fishing in a river. As they fished and talked, they saw a child floating down the river dangerously close to the rushing waterfall. Fearing the child would drown,

Milestones: Self Reflection, Miracles, and Best Wishes of the Season

For me historically, holidays, anniversaries, birthdays and other marked dates that cycled around every year laden with hopes and expectations, fantasies and even magical prayers were always a terrible trap. Particularly those

A Sense of Self

People, Place, and Brain In our apartment building in New York, everyone seemed to have numbers on their arms, sad eyes and thick German accents. My great Aunt Gertrud would take me

Pleasure to Meet You

Wanting, Longing and the Conundrum of Need In the attachment literature Berkeley luminary Mary Main eloquently describes the “dilemma without solution.” For this bereft infant the source of safety and the source

Angels Dimensions of Possibility

Another remarkable BBC story in the wee hours inspired and compelled me; an interview with an Afghan refugee speaking about his narrow escape from the death grip of the Taliban, actually from

Life, Love and Healing: The Wonders of Oxytocin

When I was young and first learning about sexuality, an older, mentor-like friend, taught me “Don’t have sex with someone you don’t like, because you will secrete oxytocin, which then bonds you

The Largest Sexual Organ: Using Our Brains to Restore Traumatized Sexuality

“The brain is first and foremost an organ of action” – Roger Sperry, Nobel Prize winner, 1981 For those of us who work with the traumatized, which like it or not is

Coming of Age: Sexuality Pioneer Betty Dodson Turns 90

It was almost two decades ago when I stumbled across a most remarkable video. In it, a circle of women, all naked; and their group leader, a woman in her seventies, also

Pandemic: An Upstream Look At #MeToo