Trauma is an overwhelming experience. It is a stimulus that is greater than what the organism was designed to withstand and process by its usual means. Under these circumstances, the instinctual drive for survival impels extraordinary or “unusual” measures or adaptations to find a way to stay alive.

By its very definition, the traumatic experience or event is in some way beyond the pale, so the response to it is of necessity an aberration from the norm. To respond in a normative manner would not suffice in a situation that is too extreme. The organism must resort to extreme measures.

Do some of your partner’s reactions, responses, and behaviors
(or your own) seem “over the top,” disproportional, crazy, or not “normal”? This e-book will help you see why.

* This e-book is an excerpt from Ruth Cohn’s 1st book: Coming Home to Passion