Hello, and welcome!

My name is Ruth Cohn. I am a psychotherapist living and practicing in the San Francisco Bay Area. I have been specializing in work with survivors of trauma and neglect, their intimate partners and families since 1988.

I am a Certified Sex Therapist, certified in Neurofeedback, EMDR, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy and Imago Relationship Therapy. I am also the author of two books: Working With the Developmental Trauma of Childhood Neglect: Using Psychotherapy and Attachment Theory Techniques in Clinical Practice and Coming Home to Passion: Restoring Loving Sexuality in Couples With Histories of Childhood Trauma and Neglect; and numerous articles on sexuality, trauma and neglect.

On this site I share helpful information about trauma and neglect, and shed light on the impact that it can have on relationship, sexuality, and life in general, long after the experiences may have stopped. I hope this site will be a help to you!

What you will find on this site

  • Information on how you can get help for the lasting impact that trauma and neglect can have on relationship, sexuality, and life in general
  • Help for healing from sexual problems related to trauma and neglect
  • Resources, articles and ideas of where to get help
  • My weekly blog where I share current thinking

Featured Blogs



“Why Won’t You ‘Just’ Talk to Me?” As I was pondering the recurring devastating dynamic between a couple I work with, a memory from my own life bubbled up. For those of us who have the minimal and spotty memory of early life, typical of neglect, these little forays into

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Ignoring, Forgetting and Denying Driving to work one day last month, I heard a snippet of news about a young man named Spencer Elden, now 30 years old, suing Nirvana and Kurt Cobain’s estate for a 1991 photograph of him, taken and used without his consent. He was a four-month-old

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